There never seems to be enough time in a day, a week or a month. We are forever making empty promises to ourselves that we will or that we must. I am not talking about going to the gym or going a whole 2 weeks without alcohol (heaven forbid). I am talking about the simple pleasures we do separately from our working lives. This does not include socialising with friends.
I am talking about the things that privately give us self-purpose. Whether that is spending a couple hours of your week drawing, playing a team sport or practising the piano. The things that we would do if we felt we had more time in a day.
It is hard to keep on top of the things that give us an inner purpose, when we put so much of our energy into our jobs. We find ourselves getting home after a long day in the office, feeling mentally and physically exhausted. We’ll sink onto our beds or into our sofas and not feel capable of movement, as we tell ourselves next week will be different because we’ll somehow have more time. That we will somehow have more energy.
It’s all about the happy medium, but so rarely do we get that right. Allowing yourself to give X to your job, X to your social life and X to those hours spent just focussing on yourself. Somehow, one is always being slightly neglected over the others and we are subconsciously aware of that. We know when we haven’t been quite as diligent or faithful. We feel guilty for perhaps giving too much of our time away, especially when one is so obviously in need of our attentions.
Young professionals are very guilty at burning the candle at both ends. We work hard and we play hard and we’re not fond of missing out. However, missing out on focussing on yourself shouldn’t be taken lightly. The candle doesn’t stay lit forever and there is that risk of allowing yourself to burn out completely. Set time aside for yourself, that down time that is yours alone. We need to have those vocational pursuits that are separate from work and friends. These pursuits are actually stress relieving and can also give your mind a break. You can momentarily step away from working and social pressures, entrusting yourself the opportunity to ignite those creative juices as well as release those much needed endorphins.
By giving your soul to your job and by reserving all your energy resources for friends, you are depriving yourself of having an inner purpose. You never want to wake up thinking ‘is this all there is?’, because somewhere along the way you lost sight of those vocational activities that kept you ticking over. Kept you feeling sane. Kept you feeling like you.
Everyone has a vocational pursuit. If you can’t think of yours right now, then think perhaps of the one you had five years ago. Where did it go? Why did it go? No one ever really believes they have enough time to do everything and sometimes there are days and weeks where you really do have no time. Just do yourself a favour and make some each month. You won’t ever regret affording yourself those hours to remind yourself that you have other purposes outside of work and play.
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