Dear X

Thank you for your interest in the role of XXX. There were a lot of strong applicants and whilst we thoroughly enjoyed meeting with you, on this occasion we are sorry to inform you that you have been unsuccessful in securing a place on our team.

We wish you all the best for your future endeavours and will keep your records on file if anything suitable comes up.

Kind Regards,

Someone who has forgotten just how utterly shit it is being unemployed!

 

 I don’t have many friends who haven’t had a similar type of rejection letter from the companies that they were applying to.  I mean kudos to the company for actually having the decency to inform you that you didn’t get the job in the first place. We are also equally familiar with the companies that like to string you out for weeks on end, keeping you in the lurch, before unceremoniously ghosting you. Yes, that is somewhat more unfavourable, however it doesn’t take away that dull, deflated feeling of being rejected. Especially when you recount your interview process and question at which point, another candidate was more preferable to yourself.

 

Whilst getting a job rejection makes you want to march into their offices and shout ‘didn’t our time together mean anything!’ as though you and the interviewer Clive, really bonded over the time you spent talking about your various strengths and weaknesses…But we even joked about the Northern line together?! Alas, a job interview outcome can only go one of two ways- yes, you’ve got the job or no, on this occasion you weren’t successful.  It’s normal to feel disheartened just remember it isn’t personal. Frustrating yes, but rarely personal. There will sometimes not be a lot in, why they picked someone else over you. Asking for feedback over drowning your sorrows in the pub, I have come to realise is actually far more valuable (not to mention cheaper) and effective, to your time.

If you have been going through a period of rejection letters and emails and are feeling particularly disheartened by the process, give yourself some time off and actually some credit! By time off, I don’t mean pack your bags and go travelling (with money you definitely don’t have), rather a long weekend at home, without getting rat arsed, so you can recharge your batteries.  It is true, that enough rejection can really dent your confidence and question your sense of self worth. The trick is not to embody a feeling of defeatism and to continue to set yourself attainable goals to reach. If you’re applying for jobs, whilst not in a job then make it a priority to wake up in the morning and enforce a routine, whether it’s going to the gym or having a shower! It is amazing how quickly pyjama days can suddenly stretch past the weekend. You won’t want to seize the day, if you’re in last night’s sweats and you have sugar puffs encrusted into your hair. I cannot stress the need to carry on being proactive as you continue your job search, so as to keep your sanity.

Take your rejection as just another experience in which you can learn from and celebrate the smaller achievements that you are making, that still apply to a work/life day, such as putting yourself out there at a networking night or making a pitch video for a job board.

 

And finally, a note from the wise and by wise, I mean someone who has had their fair share of rejections. Don’t talk about favourite after work haunts as small talk to the person who is interviewing you. It will make it ten times more awkward when you then see them there, a month later when you’ve been told you haven’t got the job. Somehow, drunkily discussing ‘whyyyyy’ you didn’t get the job, will only reaffirm they made the right choice by going with the other candidate.

 

You win some, you lose some.

 

Twenty Mile Club